This is really important to me. I just got out of an abusive relationship, and I hope that no one ever has to feel like I did.
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SHaring this for a friend of mine who asked me how to tell the difference
Wow, I’ve never read such bullshit in my life!!
Why is it bullshit?
Because as women, we are conditioned to think being treated in such a way for the pleasure of men is normal/natural, and we are suppose to be ready and willing to do as we must in order to make sure men are satisfied. It’s basically just another way for men to hold us down, take what the want, and call it “consensual”. Abuse is abuse, no matter the form, and the fact that people take a real life problem and use it as some sort of kink is disgusting. It’s completely offensive and destructive for men and women to play out abuse fantasies, as if it is completely harmless, when in fact, it keeps the expectations of women right where men want them.
BDSM goes beyond gender roles, as does abuse. You see how you immediately jumped to the conclusion that men are the ones “dominating” and women are the ones “serving”? Or how you immediately assumed that the abuse was from men, onto women? Well now you’re just using sexist stereotypes to try and push a narrow minded view of love, gender, and sexuality in general. There is not a single point in this image where it mentions gender in any way. Even the pictures don’t suggest a gender, being simple stick humans.
This is NOT a coincidence, it is trying to show you that anyone can be a victim of abuse in any kind of relationship. Just as women are NOT the only ones who can find themselves the victim in an abusive relationship, women are also not always the submissive party. Matter of fact, there might not even be a woman present!! Or both parties could be women!! Or even all 12 parties could be women!!!
Do I even need to mention how female dominatrixes can make serious careers out of dominating men in the ways they want? Or how those women often DON’T EVEN NEED TO HAVE SEX WITH THEIR CLIENTS?!?!? Don’t limit yourself to this archaic idea that sex, or any facet of kink or sexuality, is bound by gender or common gender roles.
Grow up and stop trying to find the “issues” you’ve been taught to assume in everything….. I really wish that everyone could pull their heads out of their asses and stop jumping to conclusions about how everything is racist, sexist, or discriminatory in all those simple-minded ways… Because yes, there is a hell of a lot of racism, sexism, and discriminatory garbage all over!! But it’s bad enough without everyone jumping on totally innocent shit to prove that it is sexist, racist, or discriminatory.
I love dominating my girlfriend in bed and she loves it too, we love it almost as much as when she dominates me!! So, with all due respect, go fuck yourself!!
~End fucking rant~
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