queer-cheer:

how to respond when someone asks not to be called ‘dude’: 

• “sorry, i won’t do that from now on" 
• and then u don’t do it

how NOT to respond when someone asks not to be called ‘dude’: 

• "i call everyone dude!”
• “dude is gender neutral" 
• "it’s just a word”
• “why are you so upset about it?”
• continue to call them dude 

(this concept applies to other gendered words, obvs)