fauxcyborg:

I get so, so many questions asking me: what if the abuser had a bad childhood? what if they belong to a marginalized group? what if what if what if, haven’t you thought about their pain?

and the idea that any of that explains for the abuse of another human being is abhorrent. the idea that we don’t already live in a world that loves to make excuses for abusers is so foreign. 

where is the empathy for the abused? what about their bad homelife? what about the fact that they’re more likely than their abuser to belong to a marginalized group? what about their pain?