Month: May 2015

autisticliving:

• Don’t ask us to stop if you catch us in doing a repetitive movement, whether that is flapping our hands, bouncing our legs, fidgeting with something, rocking back or forth or something else. It might seem weird and unnecessary to you, but it’s a natural part of autistic people’s body language that can help us focus, express ourselves and calm down.
• If you want us to know something, tell us. Don’t expect us to get your hints. Many autistic people have trouble reading and comprehending facial expressions, body language and other non-verbal communication, so if there’s something you want us to remember or understand, tell us directly.
• Don’t touch us without permission. It might just be a friendly, casual touch or hug, but many autistic people have trouble with sensory processing and touching can be stressing and painful. Don’t take it as an insult if we ask you to refrain from touching us.
• Don’t expect us to have the same body language as most people. For example, don’t assume that we’re not listening because we’re not looking you in the eyes – eye contact is stressing, uncomfortable and painful to many autistic people. 
• Remember that many autistic people experience and process sensory inputs differently than you might. We’re not overreacting or exaggerating – we just process the world differently from you. Don’t get offended if we ask you to turn off the music or if we leave the table to go do our work in a separate room. If we keep refusing to join your big parties, don’t assume that it’s because we don’t want to see you. Maybe suggest meeting up one on one somewhere quiet instead.
• Don’t expect that we are capable of doing something because we usually are or because we once were. Some autistic people are capable of speaking sometimes and not other times. Some autistic people can sometimes enjoy a party but can’t manage eating dinner among other people at other times. 
• Be prepared to make plans. Instead of just asking us whether we’d like to hang out sometime next Thursday, figure out when, where and for how long.
• Don’t think that you get to speak for or on behalf of autistic people because you have an autistic family member or because you know some autistic people. Only autistic people get to speak for autistic people.

witchyroses:

roachpatrol:

grumpypedant:

I think a lot of people have trouble understanding transgender issues because they try to see themselves as trans, but come at it from the wrong direction. i.e. a cis woman tries to understand transness by going, “what if I felt like/wanted to be a man” when she should be approaching it as “what if I, a woman, was so easily mistaken for a man that I had to pretend to be one”,

And I think this is something to keep in mind and to explain away when trying to get these matters across to people who’re new to the idea.

i genuinely never thought of it that way but dang this makes a ton of sense now

thismposst is the one that made me get it

oldfuckingsport:

thedaisyrain:

stalkingstalkerthatstalks:

ginkgobilobas:

You know what I really don’t like?

When in movies or whatever the dad figure has to leave, or dies, and he tells the little boy to ‘take care of your mother, you’re the man of the house now’

yeah

so basically we are framing grown ass women to be more incompetent than a (male) child?

and don’t tell me it’s just meant to make the son feel better about the dad leaving/dying because WOW that’s a lot of pressure to put on a kid don’t you think

SOMEBODY SAID THE THING FINALLY

Thank you!!!

“Son, you’re six years old now. You’re the man of the house while I’m gone. That’s right. Your maleness outranks the experiences and intelligence of a 35 year old woman.”

yooooooo

i can’t see where the spawner should be??? like cave spider spawners are always in loads of cobwebs right, well that’s the third spider so they’re definitely spawning from somewhere but i see no more cobwebs