What do you actually consider cat calling?
people looking in your general direction, duh
any unwanted attention like whistles or comments especially the ones that make a person feel uncomfortable
How can you know it’s unwanted?
because I don’t fucking want it
Well okay but how can you know that another woman wouldn’t want it?
How are random people supposed to know a comment on your appearance will psychologically destroy you?
There’s a line.
“I like your dress!” is acceptable. “You! In the red blouse! You’re gorgeous!” is also acceptable. “I like how your dress clings to your ass, sexy!” is NOT acceptable. “You! In the red blouse! Nice tits!” is also not acceptable.
Let’s put it like this.
If your “compliment” refers directly to:
- a person’s ass
- their genitals
- their breasts (or lack thereof)
- how much you want to have sex with them
- how you want to have sex with them
- wanting to have sex with them against their will
- seeing certain parts of that person’s anatomy (sexual or not) in a specific, sexual act
- calling the person a name that is considered ‘degrading’ or involves profanity
- ‘pet names’ on a stranger
then it is not a compliment, it is catcalling, and consequently, is harassment.
So as I was saying. There’s a line. “Hello, beautiful.” is alright. But “Hello, beautiful. Those lips look perfect for sucking my cock.” has crossed that line.
Do not cross the line.
Here’s a good litmus test: Would you pay a woman the same “compliment” if your mom was standing right next to you?
If not, keep your mouth shut.
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