sieluritari:

gayreinhardt:

empathy can be learned… people gotta stop justifying being assholes with “i have low empathy” like its just not acceptable. learn to be nice to people. grow up.

Also like…. empathy is not the same as morality or compassion?

I have low empathy, my empathy quotient results can be anywhere between 10 to 24 out of 80. If my best friend came to me crying because their grandmother had died, I wouldn’t really be able to connect to their grief and I’d be a bit awkward but they’re still my friend and I care about them and I’d want to do everything I can to support them and make them feel better.

That’s it, that’s what low empathy means. Inability to connect with other people’s feelings.

Low empathy doesn’t automatically make you enjoy other people’s pain or want to be an asshole. It makes it more difficult to realise something might be hurtful but it’s actually very easy to learn that hey, apparently this thing makes other people feel bad and I don’t like when other people do that to me so that means I shouldn’t do this thing. Super easy logical stuff.

I might have low empathy but I’m also the biggest parent friend you’ll ever meet and will fight anyone who hurts someone I care about. Not to mention I do work for human rights pretty much constantly.

Empathy is not magic fairy dust that makes you a good person and not having it is not an excuse to act like an asshole. Learn to fucking take other people and their feelings into consideration, shitheads that blame their empathy levels for their behaviour is why low empathy people are so demonised and I am Tired of it.