Ladies and gentlemen, my mother. The first two photos are texts from her about my “bad” grades, and the second is a book I found in her room.
I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty sure this is emotional abuse. My mom tells me about how I’m going to hell because I don’t believe in God and tells me how I should “be more like your sister”. She’s always telling me how I could be better and do more and “stop wasting your life”.
I want to make a point to my mom and other people.
Reblog if you think this is abusive behavior.
This is 100% emotional abuse
There’s no even second guessing it, its abusive as hell.
that book is disgusting
Oh hey, I made that “why do parents punish children for not doing well in school and take away their phones/etc instead of offering to help them or get them help like literally your kid might have a learning disability and you’re not helping by causing them even more distress by taking away something they love until they magically improve” post.
This is one of the people my post was definitely for. Fuck your mother.
Also, this may be off-topic, but I know a bit about that book’s author – Dr Kevin Leman. He’s an old white religious quack. The author is actually super notorious for abusive books like that one, as well as sexist “marriage advice” or “women’s advice” ones. He has this one book that looks pretty nice on the cover – my mother has it – and is apparently all about women being able to say no. When really, it’s about how women have to “make up” with abusive fathers/husbands, “the level of affection shown to your father is what dictates your life” and other such bullshit.
He also has a similar book to that about “happy families” (gee, that doesn’t sound fucking Orwellian at all) that talks about forcing people into gender roles and “life roles” in order to be happy. For example, a chapter title from my mother’s version: “Why Dad Can’t be Mom and Mom Can’t be Dad.” That right there is just horrid. It talks about how you need to “please your husband” and what being a “man” versus a “woman” is.
He also places a weird emphasis on birth order of children as determining their place in life, and on changing children instead of helping them.
All of his books are wrapped up in this creepy Mr Rogers-level of friendly when they’re actually horrible. The author is trash.