you can reclaim a slur when:
- it applies to you
you cannot reclaim a slur when:
- it applies to your “best friend”
you cannot reclaim a slur even when
- it has been used against you, but doesn’t apply to you
(eg, men can be called p*ssies and b*tches, but the only reason it’s “degrading” is because you are being called a “woman,” so these slurs do not apply to you, these words are not yours to use or reclaim)