Tag: im cis

bpdsei:

“not all cis people are transphobic” thats. a lie thats a complete lie hell even most trans people have some internalized transphobia that we try to beat down so idk where u cis folks are comin from saying ur not transphobic lol

ecosynchronous:

ecosynchronous:

PROTECT and DEFEND trans women

if you put trans women in danger because you can’t help running your fucking mouth, you are the ENEMY and will be ERADICATED

if you are a cis person who scrolled past this without reblogging because you don’t feel like it’s a necessary message for your other cis friends to see, i want you to know you’ve made it that much harder to trust you

discoveringdaniel:

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Ttransitionrambling:

ugh god damn it

my mom is trying so hard to understand me

but she wound up finding some ‘transgender’ shit posted by these 15yo special snowflake tumblr assholes and

ugh god damn it. do you guys not see how youre fucking things up??? do you not get it?? itsgreat that youre all so ok with your bodies and dont want to transition! but please for the love of all thats good in this world, please do not call yourself transgender if you dont have dysphoria! please please stop this

ive been trying so hard to get my mother to accept me. ive called myself transgender for the same reason the word first started existing in the first place; to distance the concept of gender identity from homosexuality. the point of the word is to make transsexualism not have the word “sex” so it stops seeming like a fetish and gets taken seriously

and finally, i think my mother is accepting me. she talks to our doctor about it, who (despite misgendering trans people in the past to me) actually genders me correctly and they have a discussion. 

but then my mother tells me shes been feeling better because she read online that “transgender people don’t need surgery where transsexual people do” and i just

i got so angry. what the fuck. what the fuck is wrong with you all. do you not see what you’re doing? i had to explain to my mother that transsexual and transgender are in fact the same thing, but kids on the internet turned transgender into an umbrella term that emcompasses everyone who ever existed (because “anyone who gender nonconforms is transgender” pretty much means any girl who ever wore pants or any guy with long hair). I had to explain to her that no, just because i call myself transgender doesn’t mean im not getting surgery, and that kids appropriating a term on the internet are the ones fucking things up.

i had to explain this all to my dear mother and she broke down in tears because shes trying so hard to understand but nothing she finds explains anything to her

everything is so backwards and confusing every time she tries to look things up

and all i can tell her is that some kids on the internet decided to take a term, known for year as the same thing as transsexual, and give it a new definition

i hope youre proud of yourselves for making this movement go backwards

This was the issue I ran into trying to find resources for my parents.

I am dealing with the exact same thing with my parents.

My dad has come so fucking far in the last year or so with trying to support me and slowly getting past how uncomfortable this all makes him. He’s starting to warm up to my preferred name. He’s re-examining the way he thinks of people, and the snap judgments he makes when he sees someone.

But lord almighty he’s looked online for resources, and it has been a mess I’ve ended up having to clean up. When he finds things saying that butch lesbians are included under the “trans umbrella” or the nounself pronouns, or the many, many, MANY people claiming that dysphoria is optional.

It has undone months of talking with him and trying to get him to understand how horrible dysphoria is and how it affects me and my life. It complicates his willingness to believe me in the future. Even worse it jeopardizes the chances of my extended family accepting me or getting any kind of decent information.

Your “harmless gender fun” hurts trans people.

Say that with me.

IT. HURTS. TRANS PEOPLE.