Boundaries?
are a thing.
People’s bodies? aren’t yours to touch without permission. Even in spectrum spaces.
An incomplete list of experiences I have had in spectrum spaces-
* A gay man throwing his arm across my cleavage and telling the bartender to avert his eyes because ‘he just got married.’
* A gay man /grabbing my breasts/ and putting them up on a bar because ‘ Honey, you looked like you needed a rest.’
* A drag queen pulling my shirt down during a show.
* A drag queen motorboating me during the show.
* A woman stopping me as I tried to leave a venue, holding my hands and then my shoulders to tell me I wasn’t allowed to leave because she was a breast woman and my cleavage needed to be at that event.
* A woman grabbing my chest to remark ‘god is kind to let me be in your presence tonight.’
Non straight men?
Just because you aren’t into women, doesn’t mean you can grab women’s bodies and then claim it’s okay because you aren’t into them.
Non straight non-men?
Just because you aren’t a man, doesn’t mean you can grab women’s bodies and then claim it’s okay because you aren’t a man.
Dear Internet
-Sexual harassment is not ok, not even for a joke or social experiment.
-No means no.
-You aren’t any less a person if someone rejects your sexual advances. You are less of a person if you don’t stop when they reject you.
-The only body that you have a right to control is your own.
-The friend zone is a normal place to be, not a place where someone sends you off in shame.
Men, women, every person no matter how they identify need to understand this. It’s not some crazy concept, this is simple stuff. Simple, but important.
The amount of posts I’ve read today regarding sexual harassment, rape, slut shaming, “asking for it”, and so much more breaks my heart.
